Love...

1. Q: I love this man, and he loves me. But his parents didn’t agree with me because of my background education. We are planning on having our marriage without his parents notice. What do you think?

A: Well sisters. As a Muslim or muslimah, we need to be careful on doing things in marriage. Because we believe marriage is not for a short time, and it will not last in this life, but will be carried away in after life. At least someone should discuss with his parents about Islam law that is encourage parents to let their children get married if the children already have their own choice. If the parent don’t allow such a thing. There will be sin for the parents and later on, the children. As for Both of you, you should be patience in handling this situation, don’t get rush and do such of foolish thing. Ask forgiveness to ALLAH SWT and pray for ALLAH to soften his parents heart. Parent bless is an important thing in marriage. Bless from the parent will invite bless from ALLAH SWT.

Further on, please open Al-qur’an Suraah no. 17, aayah 23

23. dan Tuhanmu telah memerintahkan supaya kamu jangan menyembah selain Dia dan hendaklah kamu berbuat baik pada ibu bapakmu dengan sebaik-baiknya. jika salah seorang di antara keduanya atau Kedua-duanya sampai berumur lanjut dalam pemeliharaanmu, Maka sekali-kali janganlah kamu mengatakan kepada keduanya Perkataan "ah" dan janganlah kamu membentak mereka dan ucapkanlah kepada mereka Perkataan yang mulia[850].

[850] Mengucapkan kata Ah kepada orang tua tidak dilbolehkan oleh agama apalagi mengucapkan kata-kata atau memperlakukan mereka dengan lebih kasar daripada itu.

Do you noticed the red sign I made? The letter "و" (you separate two sentences which is equal in position and meanings. If you pay attention. The first thing that ALLAH told us is to worship only ALLAH SWT, and after the red sign I made, ALLAH told us to treat our parents with kind…. So being kind to our parents (in this case his parents) is one of your effort to obey ALLAH SWT. Kind in this condition are, being patient, kindly inform them about both of you getting serious and use any halaal effort to make them understand.

This is my personal advice sister…

May ALLAH bless both of you

Wallahu ‘alam bisshowab